Don’t rely too much on the old adage “opposites attract. " Relationships between opposites can sometimes devolve into dysfunctional relationships. [1] X Research source For example, if you’re the quiet type don’t assume you need a partner who is loud. You may never get the chance to speak-up. Rather, search for someone who is relatively like-minded. This way you can both grow together. [2] X Research source

You are likely to be more compatible with someone who has the same basic moral values as you. [4] X Research source Think about what you want out of your relationship. Do you want to start a family? Where do you want to live? If you want to travel, and you find yourself attracted to someone who wants to settle down, take a step back. While the two of you may get along, you may not be able to build a life together. [5] X Research source Sharing priorities in life is a good indicator of being able to share a life together.

It may actually be damaging to think of finding your “one” soulmate. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There is bound to be conflict. Don’t take conflict as a sign that you haven’t met “the one. “[7] X Research source In searching for “the one” we often look for someone who “completes” us. Don’t expect to find a partner that will satisfy all of your needs. Rather, look for a partner that will encourage you to grow and try new things. [8] X Research source

Find someone whose company you enjoy. You should look forward to spending time with that person. You may find someone attractive, but if you don’t like spending time with them, the relationship may not last long. [10] X Research source You and your partner should be able to engage in activities that will bring you together. If you both like music, go to concerts. If you both like being outdoors, go camping. [11] X Research source

If you’re not happy with someone, it’s likely they aren’t entirely happy with you. Don’t lead them on. Keep looking. [13] X Trustworthy Source HelpGuide Nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources. Go to source Consider your past relationships and any patterns you may have. Think about what worked and didn’t work. Try not to limit yourself to the type of people you have dated in the past. [14] X Research source

It is better to take your time when dealing with a potential life partner. Your relationship will be stronger and better because of it. [17] X Research source Don’t limit your choices with meaningless restrictions. Try not to pick a partner based on the type of job they have, or their age. While it’s okay to have preferences, be open minded in your search for love. [18] X Research source

When you talk to your partner it should be kind and loving. Even in times of stress or conflict, the language between potential soulmates is calm. Each of you understands and supports the other. [21] X Research source

It’s important to be enthusiastic about your partner. If they respond with the same enthusiasm, you’re on the right track. [23] X Research source

Be enthusiastic about their choices to take up a new hobby, or make a career change. By being supportive of these changes you can boost the relationship as well as your partner’s self-esteem. [25] X Research source

You might struggle at first to share facts about yourself that make you feel vulnerable. But, if you want to spend the rest of your life with a person, it’s important to forge a deep connection with them. [27] X Research source Make sure your partner is actively listening when you open up, and do the same when they share things with you. [28] X Research source

Loyalty is key. You need to know that your partner will be by your side even in the worst of times. [30] X Research source

Be ready to compromise with your partner. Having a soulmate doesn’t mean you have found someone exactly like you. In the case of conflict, you may both tackle problems differently. The goal then, is to do it together and be supportive of one another. [32] X Research source

If your partner continues to hurt you, and you wish to remain in the relationship and work things out, hold them accountable for their actions. Working through your problems can make for a stronger, more satisfying relationship. [34] X Research source Admit when you’re wrong. In the event that you are the one that makes a mistake, own up to it. Any strong relationship requires honesty to thrive. If you and your partner can work things out, you have the basis of a solid bond. [35] X Research source

A soulmate will look past the imperfections of his or her mate. They will always see their partners as beautiful. [37] X Research source

A long-term relationship is something you choose to be in. You are not obligated to be with your partner, you should want to be with them. You must have a positive view of your relationship. [39] X Research source