If a guy refuses to flirt back with you it either means that he’s not interested in you or has a girlfriend, or both. Some guys are notoriously flirty or charming to everyone they meet, even if they have a girlfriend. Don’t get swept up in the fun of flirting until you know a guy is single. A guy can still be nice and courteous to you even if they have a girlfriend. Don’t mistake niceness and politeness for flirting.

Don’t force him to hold your hand, hug you, or do anything physical if you notice that he turns away or back away from you. You don’t want to seem like a home wrecker if he’s in a relationship. He might give hugs or high fives to everyone, regardless of having a girlfriend so don’t use this as your only gauge for determining if he has a girlfriend. If you notice that he deliberately avoids being alone with you, it may be that he’s worried about keeping his reputation as a taken guy.

Girlfriends usually have the privilege of a guy’s time on weekend nights. If you can never schedule time with the guy it could be because he reserves most of his free time for his girlfriend. [2] X Research source He might mention special events or time spent with family that he’s attending without inviting you. It’s possible that he is going with a girlfriend who usually takes priority.

If he hasn’t introduced you to his friends, family, or coworkers, it could be that he doesn’t want anyone to know that you’re in the picture. It’s may not be your place to alert the girlfriend that this guy is cheating on her. It may backfire on you. Back out of the situation so that you’re not part of the problem.

Check his friends’ pages as well. Sometimes a guy won’t post photos of a relationship, but you can check his mutual friends and followers’ pages to see if they posted pictures of him with another girl. Be careful not to ‘like’ or accidentally comment on any old pictures or posts of his. He’ll get a notification that you’re stalking him. Although its increasingly unusual, it is possible that your guy may not have a social media page, in which case it may be more beneficial to check his friend’s pages to see if they posted any information about the guy.

Say that your phone’s battery died and you have to make a call if you’re trying to avoid being suspicious. Don’t abuse his privacy. If you sneak through his phone or log onto his social media profiles without permission, you could get caught. It’s never a good idea to be invasive and stalk someone’s life.

On the other hand, if you have evidence that he might have a girlfriend but still hits on other women, he might be a cheater, so be wary. If he gives out his number to other girls, he may be single. Your only challenge is to catch his attention.

Don’t confuse being nice and funny with flirting. The main difference is that flirting usually involves physical touch and subtle hints about something more than friendship.

Try to be subtle when asking. You can say things like, “What does your friend do with all of his time?” or make a joke like, “Oh where’s he going, got a hot date?” Be aware that your questioning may make it back to the guy you’re interested in. Guys talk among themselves just as much as girls. However, if your interest is single, tipping him off that you like him and have been talking to his friends is a way to get his attention.

You could always ask the question playfully. Try saying, “You seem like such an awesome guy. How do you not have a girlfriend?"[9] X Expert Source John KeeganDating Coach Expert Interview. 13 July 2021. If he doesn’t and has been oblivious that you have a crush on him, he may notice your interest when you ask him about his relationship status. Don’t worry too much if he says yes. There will always be other guys, not all the good ones are taken.

If he’s outright and honest, then you have a clear answer. But if he hesitates, take that as a red flag that he may be hiding his relationship.

If he has a girlfriend, don’t have a meltdown in front of him. Or at least wait until you’re alone to be emotional about a missed opportunity so you can save face. The best news would be if he’s single. Respond with something like, “Oh, well that’s interesting” to maintain your mysteriousness and not reveal your hand that you’re interested in him. No matter how much you like a guy, it’s not worth breaking up a relationship just so you can try and date him.