Before you get to the point of saying hi or talking, wave at him across the room or give him a nod that says hello. If he initiates more interaction, follow his lead. So if he says hi first, say it back to him.
Smiling, say, “Hey Ellis, it’s good to see you again!” When you both leave church, say, “Work hard at school this week!”
When it comes to skirts and dresses, aim for ones that go below the knees. Don’t wear ones that are slit up the thigh. Wear shirts that cover your cleavage and are not too tight or see through.
This gives him the chance to see you in front of other people, not just around the church. He’ll think you’re brave and see that you’re talented at what you do.
If the boy is serious about church and his faith, he’ll find it attractive that you read the Bible and take it seriously, too. If both of you have been in church for a long time, or even a short time, use that as a point of conversation. You’ll each be able to tell your story about going to church.
Ask him if is attending upcoming events where you could hang out more. Say, “We have that water balloon fight this Friday. Are you going to it?” Follow up by talking to him there. If you see a seat open by him, go up and say, “Do you mind if I sit here? I need someone to help me pay closer attention. ”
He will see you interact with other people, which is important. This also takes the pressure off of both of you because there are other people for you to hang out with. Tell him to bring one or two of his friends, and invite a couple of your friends, too. This way you will both have some people you know, and you’ll meet each other’s friends. Say, “Jimi, a few of us are going to J. Gumbo’s to grab some lunch after church. Do you want to bring a couple of friends and join us?”
He may not see how godly you are the first time you ever talk to him. It will take time, and you have to consistently live in this way for him to see you. Talk to him about the things that make it hard for you to live like Jesus. Being honest about your struggles brings the two of you closer together.
If you really like hip-hop music, tell him that. He may like it too, but you’ll never know if you hide it. Don’t hide parts of yourself that are important to you, because those may turn out to be what he likes the most about you. Tell him, “I love to garden because it gives me the feeling of providing food for myself, rather than always buying it at the store. ”
This may end up making things awkward if he doesn’t have those feelings for you. Either way, it is better to get things out in the open than keep it a secret. Say, “Jesse, it’s been fun getting to know you recently. I think you are a really great guy and I have strong feelings for you. How do you feel about me?”
