How To Get A Girl To Go Home With You With Pictures

Smell good and be clean. Use a deodorant and a scent that you like. Take showers regularly and wash your private areas thoroughly. Clean under the foreskin, if you have it. Brush, floss your teeth and clean your tongue daily. Groom. Get a proper haircut so it is easier to groom. Alternatively, have any hairstyle you like but make sure you groom it well. Also trim or shave your pubes and redundant hair (like armpits, nasal, ear etc. ). Wear good and/and stylish clothes that fit well and resonate with your personality. This doesn’t mean you have to wear fancy clothes or a suit but it is very important that you wear clothes that you like, are fashionable, and fit you well. Like no low shoulder, little or no breaks, no loose fitting clothes, pants sitting comfortably on shoes without any breaks etc. So alter your pants if they are too long or have a tailor take your measurements and get tailored clothes.

Physical exercise. Any form of good physical workout also helps improve your mental-emotional health and alertness[3] X Trustworthy Source Centers for Disease Control and Prevention Main public health institute for the US, run by the Dept. of Health and Human Services Go to source . Eat and drink healthily. To complement physical exercise, it helps to have a healthy diet like eating home-cooked meals, whole foods, nuts, fruits, vegetables and drinking lots of water, all while lowering the intake of fast-foods, chips and snacks. This not only improves your health but your mood as well[4] X Trustworthy Source US Department of Health and Human Services Federal department responsible for improving the health and well-being of Americans Go to source . These practices also have psychological benefits because when you groom, dress well, smell good, workout and eat healthily, it naturally helps boost your self-esteem because, indirectly or directly, you are giving yourself value.

To get a good wingman, you need to be a good wingman too. It is not just about you but working together as a team. You need to help your wing to improve and succeed too. As this mindset increases your chances of success in the long run because things are interconnected. Although, be compassionate with others and yourself, and don’t be too critical if your wingman is not winging as per your “expectations”. Its because they may not have the same learning curve, personality and upbringing as you. Plus your expectations could be unrealistic. If you are having trouble finding good wingmen, search on online forums or Facebook groups. It may take a few tries to find the right wing-man that resonates the most with your personality. Although don’t use ‘going out with wingmen’ as a crutch. It’s perfectly fine to go out alone. In fact, in many cases, you learn even more and have better chances of success when you go out solo, as it’s more challenging and polarizing. As challenges drive you deeper. Plus, you have no one to fall back on but yourself. So keep a balance. If people ask why you are out alone, you can say something like “My friends are wimps and scared to come out. “, “My friend is somewhere around here but currently you seem to be more interesting than him”, “My friend came with a girl and I feel awkward being the third wheel”, “ My friend is on his way here” etc. Whichever story feels natural to you. These stories can also help trick your mind to think that you are not out alone. Which may help make you feel more comfortable, psychologically.

“What you resist, persists. " Zen saying.

Keeping a balance between meeting girls via cold approaching, dating apps, and social circles can be fruitful. Chances of success would be higher at a social circle event because there’s a sense of familiarity. However, cold approaching has other deeper benefits like getting in touch with inner confidence, developing a good sense of humor, amusing yourself, caring less what people think, seeing people and yourself beyond looks and psychological state, public speaking, looking through fears, taking risks, practicing vulnerability, becoming present, getting out of comfort zone, making new friends, connecting deeply with human beings, dissolving anxiety, reading social cues and subtle signs, and body language etc. Also, the potential of making a deeper connection with a person you met via a cold approach is usually higher as compared to meeting a girl through a social connection or app. It is because when you cold approach a girl, you are already coming out as polarizing, as girls see your true depth, personality and looks rather than a profile page. In addition, even though chances of success via cold approaching are low but if you cold approach enough, you can still date and have regular sex with more compatible women than getting dates and sex through social events or apps. For example: suppose you get rejected by 99 out of 100 girls/women you approach in a month. This means you can still meet one cool girl/woman every month with whom you resonate well. Of course, this is just an example. The actual number can be higher and lower for different people depending on their confidence level, looks, personality, seduction and interaction skills, intelligence, honest communication of intentions, degree of presence, number of approaches, receptiveness of the people around and so on. Read Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more on this.

You may not have heard this a lot but it’s fine to get rejected or fail. “Failure lies concealed in every success and success in every failure” Eckhart Tolle. However, don’t make rejections a concept to shield your ego. For example: if you think something like “Let’s go get rejected” or “Let’s go fail” etc. too much before every approach, this implies there’s a negative mindset behind and it will very likely become a self-fulfilling prophecy because world is just a reflection of your inner state. Keep a balance. ‘I want you, but I don’t need you. ’ or something like ‘I am going out and I will have a good time, regardless of the rejections’. This non-needy and fun mindset is quite yielding in the long run. This usually comes with practice and experience. Again, people who are having a good time are quite attractive.

Ask questions like “Where do you live?”, “Who are you here with?”, “Who do you live with?”, “Are you working tomorrow?”, etc. These questions can come in handy to plan and figure out logistics that would suit the hook-up best. When you are out on a date, try not to be more than 15-20 minutes from your or her place. It can work well if you are at a walking distance to your or her place. Make sure you know how to take her to your place or hers. Take advantage of apps like Uber or Lyft, or drive, if you are sober. You can also take public transportation as it gives you enough time to deepen your connection with the woman during the ride to your destination. Here’s a date idea: take her on a ’train date’ to unfamiliar parts of your city. Of course with common sense. The girl maybe with her friends and/or have obligations to them. For example: if she has only one friend with her then you can offer to pay for her taxi or call an Uber/Lyft, so you can get to be alone with the girl. Or ask/signal your wing to indulge the friend/friends so they don’t interfere. You can also invite the friend to come to your place for an after party or something. Keep in mind that usually logistics will not be in your favor, especially when you meet women through cold approaches. If she can’t come home with you or you can’t go to her place then you can try to pull her to your or her car or the bathroom (or other private places). You can also exchange numbers, social media etc. so you can plan to meet with her another day, which may work best for many people. Although, if you feel the connection with the woman was not strong enough and/or she may forget the interaction with you, which happens in the night when women are tipsy as they feel more social, then with some persistence and physical escalation try to pull the woman the same night or day and don’t leave it on the phone or social media conversation in a hope to meet her another day. As you may likely end up getting flaked or ghosted. So it really helps to be a good reader of body language, vibe, facial expressions and tone of their voice.

It may not be possible to have fun all the time, as your state of consciousness varies. For example: there are times when you feel social and times when you want to be left alone, times when it’s easy to hold a conversation, times when you feel you are not getting anywhere, times when you are having many good interactions and so on. Of course, your state of consciousness varies between the mentioned extremes and some of the states may be more predominant than the others. However, trust the process and have fun to an extent your state of consciousness allows it. For example: If you don’t feel comfortable approaching women, then accept it and maybe try approaching people and ask for time or whatever you feel comfortable doing at a given moment. Rather than pushing yourself to do approaches. Which may work in the beginning to help you shift attention from mental-emotional inertia but it depletes you of energy, may make you take things too seriously and even give up. Plus, it will become tiresome in the long run. Acting in accordance with your ‘state of consciousness’ also implies working on things that are in your direct control at that moment. Which naturally and without force gets you in a social mood and present moment.

Use common sense though. If you want to have sex with a girl, you can’t blatantly say that, unless the girl is craving for you. Even though it’s polarizing and acting with alignment with your intentions. So common sense and a little bit of intelligence go a long way. Generally speaking, primarily, your intentions should be sub-communicated through your actions, physical communication, the way you speak, eye contact and body language. [5] X Research source Manson, Mark. Models:Attracting women through honesty, Pg 88 . As you will read later.

‘Lead and let it play out’ means you lead the conversation by talking about common things and activities that you both find funny, interesting, passionate or enthusiastic about, and then let it take its natural course. For example: You can throw a bunch of topics, that you find interesting, like traveling, favorite things, spirituality, fears, culture, sexuality, interests, history, psychology, comedy, current affairs, cuisines, culture and so on. and see which one sticks. That’s why having common interests has great power. Read section 2 of Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more details on this. Bring her into a mutual bubble. Most girls like a guy who can lead. So don’t get pulled into her world and supplicate to her or you will, most likely, end up being their gay best friend listening to them complain about other guys or girls. Plus it is pretty unattractive because it sub-communicates neediness and insufficiency. So instead pull her into a mutual world and talk about things which you ‘both’ are passionate about, find fun and interesting. Don’t have this high expectation that whatever you say should be funny or interesting. It’s OK to have a normal conversation in between, but if the whole conversation is normal and simple, it may not hook the woman enough. Unless the girl is a ‘yes girl’.

Be polarizing and vulnerable. It means communicating your true personality and intentions with honest communication and not playing roles or games[6] X Research source Manson, Mark. Models:Attracting women through honesty, Pg 40 . This is what helps make genuine connection. In other words, talk about things that you are passionate about and find interesting and fun. Use humor that is in alignment with your personality and not caring if the other person would like it or not. This filters out the people who may not resonate well with you. This applies when interacting with all people and not just women, if you want to make genuine connection with people, as its all interconnected. Also, when you are having fun then the person in your company will, most likely, have fun too because they will feel your vibes. It is highly recommended to read Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more depth Listen. Be completely present while interacting someone, that’s when creative, intelligent interesting and fun things come spontaneously and naturally. It means don’t plan too much in your head what you are going to say or do next. Just be in the moment completely and truly listen to her. Listen with your whole body, as the spiritual expression goes. True listening is a great gift you can give to someone. It also sub-communicates that you don’t want anything from the girl and are not treating an interaction as a means to get her home, but simply allowing “this” moment to be as it is. Which is a powerful practice. Plus, listening and observing helps you read their body language, pick up a lot of subtle hints and details about women or people in general, which you can use to make inside jokes and recall personal details at the right moments. Thus helping you to make a better connection by making them feel important. That’s why sex is usually a by-product of making a good connection with a human being. Use ‘Us’ mentality and roleplay. It can be effective if you do it right. Read section 2 of the article Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more on this. Keep it playful and sexual. You need to make it sexual if you want to lead things to the bedroom. For example: talking about what kind of cereal she eats in the morning is not going to get you far unless you can make it interesting or flirtatious. For instance, you can say something like “Maybe I will make breakfast for you someday, or tomorrow morning”. If you feel that the girl/woman is cool or would like to know the limits for yourself, you can also be direct and say something like “I just cannot keep my eyes off your nice breasts. " or something like “You have a nice butt. God bless America”. Subtle and/or explicit funny sexual compliments and conversation, with common sense, courage and after realizing the level of reciprocity, can arouse girls/women quickly, as it may help them visualize how intimacy with you is going to be like. It also sub-communicates that you are not shy about talking sexually. This can help girls open up more. You can also be subtle and slowly polarizing with the girls to know if they are compatible with your sense of humor. This is quite yielding in the long run as quickly you will know which girls will be compatible with you. For example: You can make a light joke which you find funny like “You know Gandhi said ‘Love is trash, people need cash?” or “Have you noticed when you lose the remote you lose trust in everyone?”, and see if the girl finds it funny. You can also slowly physically escalate (more about this later in the article) like touch her elbow or hold her hand and see if she’s receptive. If she is, then up your polarization and physical escalation steadily. If she isn’t, even after a few tries, then there’s a possibility you may not be compatible with her or she’s a No girl or not interested.

In the beginning, you can practice progressive escalation with common sense. Like gently touching her elbow or grab her hand or hug her to detect the level of receptivity from the girl/woman. If she’s fine with it or doesn’t pull away or says a firm No, you can smooth your way to her shoulders and maybe give her a little back and neck massage. Of course, while having a normal, fun and/or sexual conversation. Although, don’t think she’s not aware of your escalation. Usually, women are aware and allow the physical escalation to happen because they find it attractive, arousing and dominating. Then you can wrap your arm around her shoulders and start massaging them. You can also slide your hand down to her waist and then with calm assertiveness pull her body closer to yours. In case she questions or pulls away, you can say something like “your body is so smooth and soft that I can’t keep my hands off of you” or “The cloth of your top is so soft and silky. " However, if she’s receptive, then go for the kiss and kiss her cheek, if she turns her head. Being persistent with common sense helps a lot, as females, even though they like it, may deny you reluctantly because they feel that you and/or other people are judging them. So being persistent in a non-reactive way is important, as it can help you maneuver through resistance the woman is offering. Be alert to see how she is resisting. If it is aggressive, firm, clear and quick then it is a sign to not escalate further and the woman could be a ‘No’ girl. Keep a balance: Don’t physically escalate too much or too fast(unless you know what are doing), else she will most likely feel repelled and sexual attraction may diminish. This balance usually comes with experience and after some or many failed attempts. Depending upon your personality and learning curve. Meditation also helps. You can also be sneaky like “Hey, let me read your palm”, when she gives you her hand, you can say something like “I just wanted to hold your hand” or continue to fake read the palm. If you want to be bolder, you can just go straight for the kiss, if you feel she is receptive or just want to know the boundaries for yourself. It works best in the nighttime. This is ‘high-risk high gain’ action and requires courage. Most women, who are not interested, will just deny you. Read Make Out with a Random Girl for more on this.

Also, again, lead during the interaction and/or when you are shuffling, and don’t let her lead you (unless its necessary such as walking through a congested place), which is unattractive and sub-communicates neediness and inadequacy. For example: If she says “Let me go get a drink. " then you can grab her hand and say something like “Let’s go get you a drink”, lead her to the bar and then order it for her(You dont necessarily have to pay). Exception to this is Dom females. Which is a minute fraction of women.

This comes naturally when you are in touch with your inner space. Use common sense. When she says ‘No’, listen to her tone and watch her behavior. If she means it, back off. There are plenty of other women. Move on. Learn to handle rejections. It helps a lot to sub-communicate, from the beginning itself, that you are a non-judgmental person. Like talking normally after kissing, giving her warm hugs in between, touching her, holding her hand, sliding her hair behind her ear, making fun of the situation, playful banter or teasing, having a genuine and interesting conversation etc. This helps a lot in the long run as it can help prevent things like excuses, flakes, ghosting, last minutes resistance, pushing you away, etc. To be truly non-judgmental, you need to dissolve the ego.

This is important, especially during evening or nighttime or in high energy environments such as bars, clubs, concerts, events etc. , as there is so much going on. So you would have to take the lead and make it interesting and fun or you will most likely to get blown off. At the same time, it doesn’t mean to force it. Make sure You find it fun or intriguing first. So polarize. That’s why it’s so important to have fun and talk about things that you find amusing and interesting. How can you expect to keep her engaged when You are not having fun? You should be the first person you need to entertain and if they feel entertained too, that’s what builds a connection. Also, it’s extremely helpful to be funny. Yes, it takes practice to come up with interesting, witty and funny things to say or do. So it helps to watch stand-ups, funny TV shows, have interesting hobbies, travel, view memes or funny videos etc. Read section 2 of Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more on this.

Taking the women to buffer places like some restaurant or lounge can help simmer down the energy and help you get to know them better, especially in the night. Which helps deepen the connection that helps prevent issues like last minute resistance, uncertainty, hesitation etc. However, it can also mess up your chances to have sex, as tipsy women are easier to have sex with. So be discrete. If the girl still display resistance like, “What if you turned out to be a killer or a rapist?”, then make it fun and don’t react. For example: try to flip the script with something like, “Hold on! what if you killed me and tossed my body in the alley. . . Now I am scared”. Again the mindset “I want you but I don’t need you” helps a lot. Although you need to make a good connection with a girl to get to this point. Again, keep in mind that pulling a girl home is not straightforward. It’s a ‘dirty’ business and can be quite challenging. However, if you embrace or accept the challenges and roadblocks rather than resisting them, it can be quite amusing and rewarding in the long run. Challenges drive you deeper[8] X Research source Tolle, Eckhart. Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment. Vancouver, BC: Namaste Publishing, 1999. Page 43. .

For example: When you are in a car or walking to your or her place, touch her playfully or sexually, talk dirty (if that’s your thing), gently bite or kiss her neck, or simply continue to have normal fun and/or sexual conversation, to maintain sexual tension and connection.

“All things flow to the sea because it’s lower than they are. Humility gives it its power. ” Tao Te Ching. Traditionally speaking, it takes practice and experience to develop this kind of mindset. Here are few practices that can help: Approach, genuinely interact and go on dates with less attractive women from time to time. Along with developing a non-needy mindset, this practice helps tremendously with things like gaining reference experience, giving without any expectations, seeing people beyond their looks, lowering your expectations, holding a conversation etc. This doesn’t mean forcing yourself to talk and go on dates with less attractive females. If you don’t find them attractive, it’s possible that you may not have a good conversation with them because your motivation level will not be high and your mind will offer resistance. Considering that most guys are visually stimulated or looks oriented. [9] X Research source . However, just be aware and open towards this idea. As awareness will eventually take you beyond the disproportionate attraction or pull towards physical looks. Which helps you make a deeper connection with a human being. Be grateful for what you have. Acknowledge the good in your life. Go out often to give your mind proof that there are plenty of attractive females out there who are interested in you. However, the best way to become truly non-needy is to deeply realize that no experience, sexual pleasure, relationship, thrill or possession can satisfy you, except temporarily. That’s when things, experiences, pleasures and the world lose their significance and importance that they don’t have. Their transient nature and ultimately dissatisfactory nature is recognized more clearly. That’s when true peace and joy arise from the core of your Being. Also, It helps immensely to inhabit your inner body to be truly non-needy and composed. Through your inner body you are One with the peace and joy of Universe.

Talk to her the same way when you met her, or at least become aware to detect yourself playing roles, making it as a means to an end and playing safe. As awareness helps to dissolve the role-playing mental patterns and snap you out of it. Read section 5 of Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more.

Make sure you have alcohol at your place, especially when you are coming home from a club or bar, as you may want to keep the mood going. Fix her a drink, if she wants one.

Dance with her. If that’s your thing, then dance with her slowly.

Offer her a massage. This massively reduces the ’last minute resistance’ because it turns on females and help them relax and loosen up quickly. Take off your clothes first, as you are kissing, but be aware that the she’s is comfortable with it. Read Hook Up with a Girl for more on this. However “when in doubt whip it out”. This is a low-risk high-gain action.

Lower your expectation. Expanding on to the last step. It helps a lot to lower your expectations. Many guys have these high and sometimes irrational expectations that they need to score or go home with 10s or 9s or 8s regularly. Which leads to increase in their anxiety level, mental-emotional inertia (which doesn’t let them take action), being lonely for long periods of time, judging less attractive women and themselves, because what you do to others, you do to yourself. These unrealistic expectations are partly due to watching porn, mental and cultural conditioning, glamorized TV shows/movies, bad advice from friends and people close to you, viewing photo-shopped pictures, etc. Here’s a practical way to see it: When you start playing a new game, it’s recommended to set difficulty level as easy and then steadily increase the difficulty. Similarly, don’t miss out on opportunities to go on dates and/or have sex with less attractive women. This also gives you a lot of reference experience. We spoke about this earlier. This is just a guideline, as some people can quickly pickup the game and others not as quickly. Since everyone’s different.

Be comfortable in your own skin. Embrace or accept what you have, good or bad. As when you truly accept, you naturally become less gamey, more real, honest and vulnerable. It is because you are not “protecting” yourself by constructing a psychological shield made of concepts and beliefs, which doesn’t work anyway in the long run and adds to the pain. Thus you naturally come across as more attractive and real to most people who have some depth in them. Its because acceptance of ‘what-is’ gives way for your true power to shine through. Take good care of yourself. Meditation, following your passions, physical workout, healthy diet, etc. help a lot. How can you expect to perform well in life, when you are not physically and mentally sound?

Dissolve the mental-emotional patterns of inadequacy and lack of Entitlement. Allow the thoughts or self-limiting beliefs that say ‘you are not good enough’ or ‘she is so out of my league’, ‘I am not attractive enough’, ‘She will reject me’ etc. Let them be. This ’lack of entitlement’, inadequacy and negativity will dissolve naturally if you just allow these mind created thoughts, patterns and emotions to be without resistance, reacting and deeply realizing that you are not your mind. If allowing the self-limiting beliefs is not easy then replace these self-pity and demotivating thoughts with affirmations and/or constructive action. For example: when negative thoughts like “She’s so out of my league” or “I am not feeling it” arise then immediately replace them with affirmations or actions like “You deserve it” or “I am worthy”, “Lets talk to her”, “Let’s see if its really true. " etc. Another practical pointer is to approach and talk to women often, to collect evidence that women, even a few, are friendly, nice and are actually attracted to you. In fact, men are lucky that a good number of women are not into looks as much as them[10] X Research source . For example: It is a common sight in cities to see less attractive guys going out with hot girls. Be practical though and use this evidence as long as it motivates you and drop it when it starts causing psychological (mental and emotional) pain. Plus, generally speaking, women are nicer than men. Read the last step of article Become Mentally Flexible for more on this. It certainly helps to keep a balance between relationship, health and wealth to counter lack of entitlement. Read step 2 of section 6 of the article Get Good at Picking Up Girls for more. Although, the best practice to dissolve self-limiting beliefs and to be non-needy is deeply realize that [Know Your True Self|in your essence]] you are already perfect and complete Now. And the best way to know that is to realize that you are not your mind. This helps bring an inner shift and that’s what is reflected in the world around you. As the world is just a reflection of your inner state. [11] X Research source Tolle, Eckhart. Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment. Vancouver, BC: Namaste Publishing, 1999. Page 150. You will also realize this truth as you practice feeling your inner-body as much as you can.

Emotions and circumstances are just ripples on the surface, but you are the ocean. Read Stay Rooted in Being for more depth on this.

However, if you are a chill and laidback guy then the same attitude can work for you too. You don’t have to force yourself to ramp up your energy. Simply take one step at a time as long as it feels natural. This helps conserve energy, helps you game longer, is polarizing and more effective in the long run. Low energy game. However, experiment to find which approach works best for you and to find a balance.