If you know that you’ll be running into her on a certain day, make sure to look your best. Even if you’re in a bad mood, make an effort to smile and give her a positive vibe, so she wants to get to know you.
She won’t be impressed if she sees you sleeping in class, or kicking your locker because it won’t open. You should make her see that it’s really fun to hang out with you.
You can make some jokes in class to show that you like to have fun, but not at the expense of others or the teacher. That’ll make her think that you’re too much of a wise guy. If you make eye contact or walk into the room together, don’t be afraid to say hi. If you’re sitting next to her, you can make small talk about whether she’s ready for the test, if she understood the homework, or just ask her how her day is going. You can ask her to help you in class or have her tutor you. Just go up to her and say, " Listen I’m having trouble in math and I was wondering if you could help me after school sometime?".
If you see her in the hall, say hi and even walk next to her if you’re feeling bold. If you see her at the mall or at a party, let her see you talking to your friends, acquaintances, and other girls to make her see that you’re a cool guy who can get along with anyone.
Remember that most guys in middle school are nervous about how to talk to girls. If you keep your cool and say hi to her like it’s no big deal, you’ll stand out from the pack.
Start off by making her feel at ease. Pay attention to her and make eye contact without cornering her or making her nervous. Ask her about whatever’s coming up next. If you see her in the halls, ask about her next class. If you see her in the halls, ask her if she’s going to a club meeting or what she’s up to after school without being too nosy. Make her laugh. If you start off by poking fun at yourself or making a harmless joke about a teacher or someone you both know, you’ll start off on the right foot.
Ask her about her dance classes or any sports she plays. Girls love talking about their interests. Ask her about her pets. If she has a cat or a dog, she’ll love that you care. Ask her about her friends. Girls love talking about their friends — and any drama that they may be dealing with. Make sure that you have a balance. She should find out things about you, too, instead of revealing a lot without getting anything back.
If you had an interesting debate in a class you had together, you can talk to her after class to see what she thinks on the matter. If you know that you both just saw a new movie, you can ask her if she liked it and why or why not. Ask about her favorite music. See what she likes and doesn’t like to listen to – who knows, you may even end up going to a concert together.
“I have so much fun talking to you. " “You have a great laugh. " “Has anyone ever told you that you look like. . . (name of cute actress here)?” “It’s cool that you have time to do well in school and play soccer. "
Tease her a bit and let her tease you back. Don’t tease her about anything too serious that can be taken the wrong way. Instead, tease her about her love for the color purple or her obsession with any boy band. You can break the touch barrier by playfully hitting her arm or letting her push you a bit if you’ve said something that makes her laugh.
If she once mentioned that Ryan Gosling is her favorite actor, you can mention that a new movie that he’s in is playing that weekend. She’ll be touched that you remember what she’s interested in – and may even want to go to the movie with you. If you’ve been talking to her for a while and can tell that she’s not being her usual chipper self, you can casually say, “I can see that something’s wrong. Do you want to talk about it?” Even if she’s not ready to talk, she’ll appreciate that you care. If you know she has a big test that she’s nervous about, wish her luck and ask her how it went afterwards. You don’t have to memorize her entire schedule to be aware of the key moments that matter to her.
If you know she’s really busy during lunch because she has to study for a test, offer to stand in line for lunch for her. If you’ve started talking in the halls a lot, walk out of your way so you can escort her to her next class. If your friends are waiting for you to catch up with them, don’t just leave her right away; talk until you find a natural stopping point in the conversation to show her that talking to her is important, even if it means making your friends wait for a minute or two.
If her face lights up every time you approach her and you can tell that she really likes talking to you. If she’s always laughing or giggling when she talks to you, even if you’re not being that funny. If her friends start giggling or abruptly stop talking when they pass you when she’s around. When she’s dropped hints that it would be cool to have a boyfriend or has asked about your plans for the weekend, hoping you’ll invite her to something.
You don’t have to worry too much about finding the perfect or even the most romantic place to ask her out. If you wait too long for everything to be just right, you may miss your chance. Asking her in the hallways after school is a good idea as long as it doesn’t make her late for practice.
Say, “I just really wanted to tell you that” so she feels flattered and like you’ve put a lot of time into telling her how you feel. This would also be a good time to gauge her reaction. If she leans closer to you, smiles or blushes, or even starts telling you that she feels the same way, then you can ask her out. If she backs away, says she has to go, or doesn’t respond well, then you may not want to upset her even more by asking her out.
Just a simple, “Do you want to go out with me?” will do the trick. She’ll appreciate that you’re being forward and direct.
Be prepared with a date idea if she does say that she wants to go out with you. You can ask her to go to the movies or to an upcoming dance. This will make her see that you’ve put a lot of thought into asking her out. If she turns you down, don’t be mean or walk off without saying goodbye. Thank her for talking to her and tell her you hope she has a nice day. Even if she doesn’t want to go out with you, she’ll appreciate your maturity. And whatever happens, remember not to take yourself or the relationship too seriously. Middle school is the perfect time for you to get some relationship experience without getting in over your head. At some point before or during the date kiss her. But make sure both you and her are comfortable and in a good mood
