Avoid moments when she is busy or distracted. Avoid inappropriate moments like during a lecture or exam. Try to take advantage of a moment when you’ve naturally come into contact with her, like when both checking out in the lunch line, or in the library. [1] X Research source
Quickly telling her something interesting about yourself, so that you’re more memorable. Asking her simple facts about herself, if you don’t already know. Don’t keep her too long, if either of you are in the middle of going somewhere. Comment about your surroundings. [2] X Research source
Make sure to smile, when appropriate. Avoid fidgeting. Avoid crossing your arms or other nervous or threatening postures. Maintain good posture: stand up straight, don’t hunch your shoulders forward, and hold your head up high. [3] X Research source
Don’t play petty games like “if she doesn’t call me, I won’t call her. ” Avoid making your schedule completely open to her. After all, you’ve got your own friends and family, and they are important, too. Give her time. Don’t return calls immediately (unless appropriate) and don’t expect phone calls back right away. Relax, and let things develop over time.
Don’t call her every day. Don’t ask her out every weekend, unless she suggests that she wants to go out, too. Don’t invite yourself to events where she’ll be, and try to work yourself into her social activities.
Be conscious of how much you talk and how much you talk about yourself. [7] X Expert Source Stefanie SafranDating Coach & Matchmaker Expert Interview. 8 May 2020. Ask her questions about herself and what she thinks. [8] X Expert Source Stefanie SafranDating Coach & Matchmaker Expert Interview. 8 May 2020. Pay attention to what she says, and avoid day dreaming. [9] X Research source
Feel free to compliment her. [10] X Expert Source Stefanie SafranDating Coach & Matchmaker Expert Interview. 8 May 2020. Tell her you love her eyes, or that she has an infectious laugh. Try to avoid focusing on her body, which can be uncomfortable for girls. Let her know you’ve noticed when she is good at something or when she takes pride in something. [11] X Research source
Talk to her about her aspirations and what interests her. Discuss people who influence both of you. Find out what drives her and who and what she cares about the most.
Is she grumpy in the morning? She may not be a morning person. What makes her most happy? Is it spending time with family or friends? Does her job or school make her happy or miserable. [13] X Research source
Talk to her about what she likes watching, what music she likes, and what she thinks is funny. Watch TV together, and pay attention to the shows she likes. Invite her to a comedy club or a movie and ask her to pick the performer or show. [14] X Research source
Letting each of you rotate picking the location/activity of a date. Each proposing an idea and then choosing which one suits you as a couple. [15] X Expert Source Stefanie SafranDating Coach & Matchmaker Expert Interview. 8 May 2020. Trying a different activity each date to test as many possibilities as you can. [16] X Research source
Don’t lie or embellish your reputation and your achievements. Be honest about what you like to do for fun and what interests you. Be honest, but don’t be blunt or insulting. If she asks you a question, don’t blurt out whatever you are thinking. Answer her questions truthfully, but tactfully and carefully. [17] X Research source
Talk to her and console her when she does poorly on an exam. Offer support when there has been a death in the family or a divorce. Bring her small gifts when she’s sick or down. Ask her how she’s doing when you see her. If you notice something is bothering her, ask her if she want’s to talk about it. But don’t push too hard. [18] X Research source
Spend a date, like a picnic, talking about where you both want to be in 5, 10 and 20 years. Talk about where you both want to live, ideally. Talk about your career and family aspirations. [19] X Research source
Showing affection may include hugs, snuggling, kissing, and even thoughtful and loving looks and comments. Only show affection if it is appropriate to do so, and if she consents and is enthusiastic. If she rebuffs your affection or tells you not to do so, stop immediately. She might not be ready, so give her time and be sure to move at a pace that is comfortable for both of you. [20] X Research source
