Example: Your Boundary: When you’re feeling more for her, you will try to put a little space between you. The Situation: She invites you to sleep over, but you realize that lately you’re struggling to keep your feelings of jealousy and longing under control. Instead of automatically agreeing to the sleepover, tell her that you can’t this time (you don’t even need to give a reason, but if pressed, just say your mom has laid down the law and wants you home this weekend), but that you’ll do it soon. This way, you’re not saying you will never sleep over, you’re just giving yourself a chance to tone your feelings down.
Connect with people who share your values. It helps make good friendships. [1] X Research source See if they have the qualities you respect, such as being thoughtful, supportive, kind, funny, or honest. [2] X Research source Engage in activities you enjoy doing and start conversations with people you meet while doing those activities. [3] X Research source