Plan a surprise date for him. Pop-in on him at work or at home. Surprise him with a suggestive gift. Make plans with your girlfriends.
Working out—you will feel stronger a more self-assured Completing a project—you will feel accomplished Tackling a new skill—you will feel adventurous and intelligent
Dying your hair a bold new color Opting for a natural look instead of wearing a lot of makeup Getting bangs Dressing in all black[2] X Research source
Swap your tennis shoes for heels Wear form fitting clothing Pull up your hair to draw attention to your neckline Show a sliver of skin or bare your midriff[3] X Research source
If you are not a cook, take your boyfriend out to his favorite restaurant and treat him to a decadent meal and dessert. Alternatively, you could sign up for a couple’s cooking class or make the meal together at your house. [4] X Research source
Play Pokemon Go! with your boyfriend Sit in the stands at his sporting events Attend his musical performances Learn his favorite board game or video game Volunteer with him at an organization he is passionate about[5] X Research source
Ask him to go cliff jumping with you Invite him on a rustic camping trip Act out his romantic fantasy (or yours)[6] X Research source
Stop contacting him. Eventually, he will notice that you’ve been contacting him less. If this concerns him, he will step up to the plate and start pursuing you. If he isn’t bothered by your lack of attention, he might not be worth your time. Go on a trip without him. You don’t need your boyfriend’s permission (or company) to go on an adventure. Plan an adventure that doesn’t include him. You could plan a girl’s weekend or a family vacation. If you’re feeling adventurous, take a trip by yourself. You absence will capture his attention. [7] X Research source [8] X Research source
Invite your friends over for a movie night. Go to the spa with your mom. Ask you siblings to cook dinner with you. Take a day trip with your bestie. Rent a cottage with your extended friend group. Host a DIY night[9] X Research source
Join a book club Learn a new language Join a yoga class Practice meditation every day Take on a new project at work. [10] X Research source
For example, “Mike, we haven’t spent much time together lately” or “Rowan, we aren’t connecting like we used to. " [11] X Research source
For example, “Mike, I would really appreciate it if you would make time to hang out with me” or “Rowan, I know you are busy with practice and we can’t see each other much during the week. Will you try to call me on your way home for practice everyday so we have a chance to catch up?"[12] X Research source
