For instance, you might find an LGBT meditation group that meets once a week. If spirituality is your thing, you might make some cool friends.
There are tons of LGBT forums—try one like emptyclosets. com or lgbtchat. net. These are focused just on chatting and being friendly.
The point is to put yourself out there so you’re meeting more people. If you get asked to hang out with a gay friend, do it even if you’re not really excited about it since it’s an opportunity to meet friends.
Even if you don’t drink you can still make friends in a gay bar. Try practicing your pool game or go dancing—have fun and be friendly! Although they’re not as common, you might be able to find gay cafes in your city. These are great casual places to meet other gays, especially if you’re into a quieter atmosphere or aren’t old enough to go to a bar.
Don’t give up after just one meeting or game. Stick with it at least 3 times so you give the group a chance.
For example, you might join an LGBT service group that plants trees, distributes food or supplies to the homeless, or raises awareness for gay rights. Volunteer at a Pride celebration event for a sure way to expand your circle of gay friends.
For instance, you might say, “Hey, I’m Alex. I’m kind of new in the area. Do you know any cool places to meet people?” They may ask you out, or if they get the sense that you’re gay, they may be able to point you to a well-known LGBT spot in town.
Even if someone else asks, this isn’t your news to share. Don’t make any assumptions about who knows about your friend’s orientation, and definitely don’t say anything on social media unless your friend says it’s okay.
Keep in mind that they might need extra support if they come out to other people and lose friendships or family relationships that they care about.
Holidays or special celebrations might be tough for your friend if they can’t see close friends or family. Ask them to spend these times with you and your social circle.
For example, if you hear someone say, “That’s so gay,” you could say, “How do you think that would make a gay person feel?” It puts the responsibility on the person who said it to justify their choice of words.
It’s also fine if your friend doesn’t need your help. They might just want you to know this thing about them. Again, let them know you appreciate being told, but don’t let it change your friendship.
For example, you might learn that an LGBTQ organization in your city does advocacy work. You might join it so you can volunteer along with your friend. This also shows them that you truly care. Use the correct LGBTQ terminology.
