How To Invite A Girl To The Prom 10 Steps With Pictures

Look at her behavior. If you don’t want anyone to know that you’ve been asking about her, it might be a good idea to just wait and watch. Girls are usually pretty vocal about their dates. You should be able to tell if she has a date. Ask her friends, or get a friend to ask her friends. Asking her friends will probably tip your cards: the girl will eventually find out, but that could be a good thing. To avoid this, get one of your friends to ask one of her friends. Sneaky! Ask her yourself. If you’re super direct and don’t think you’ll worry about the consequences, ask her straight up. Just say: “Just wondering, do you have a date to the prom?” If she says “no” and seems a little shy about it, looking at you expectantly, go right ahead and ask her. If she says “no” but goes on talking about how she has to find one soon, looking a bit disinterested, maybe wait a little. If you are already friends with her,ask her who she’s going with, like you assume she already has one. This means you can often slide this into normal conversation without her necessarily suspecting that you are going to ask her. If she’s got someone to go with, she’ll say who and you won’t embarrass yourself If she hasn’t,she will say so and this means you can get onto Phase Two. . . If she does realise you want to go with her, she’ll probably be flattered that you assumed that she had a date as you must think of her as an attractive person to think that she already has one! ;)

Try to be casual when you talk to her. It’s really hard to do when you like someone, granted, but remind yourself that the stakes aren’t high at the end of the day. If you ask her and she says “no,” it’s not the end of the world. You’ll end up asking and taking another girl, who could end up being more special at the end of the day. When you talk to her, try asking questions about her. People like having the chance to talk about themselves, their interests, and their aspirations. Focus on her in the beginning and the conversation will naturally shift to you after some time.

Compliment her from time to time. Compliment aspects of her personality, and occasionally, her looks. When complimenting her looks, stay away from the really feminine areas and stick to: Eyes. “Your eyes match the color of your shirt. Were you going for that?” Smile. “Your smile absolutely lights up the room. Every time!” Style. “I really like your style. I think a lot of other girls secretly envy it, too. " Hair. “Your hair looks good when you put it up. I like what you did with it. " Slowly break the touch barrier. Get used to making contact with her slowly and at her pace. Girls don’t like guys who are constantly touching them every time they talk, so it’s a tricky balancing act for you. Focus on: Touching her hand, arm, shoulder, and back while making points in conversation. If you don’t know her at all, wait a bit until you start breaking the barrier. Not going for threatening or sensitive areas, such as the thighs, stomach, and neck. There are strictly off-limits until you’re dating. Playfully touching her after you’ve grown closer. You can try tickling her, for example, if you’re giving her a hard time. Be sure she’s in a playful mood before you do this.

Touching her hand, arm, shoulder, and back while making points in conversation. If you don’t know her at all, wait a bit until you start breaking the barrier. Not going for threatening or sensitive areas, such as the thighs, stomach, and neck. There are strictly off-limits until you’re dating. Playfully touching her after you’ve grown closer. You can try tickling her, for example, if you’re giving her a hard time. Be sure she’s in a playful mood before you do this.

If you can’t ask her in person, think about writing a letter and slipping it to her. Make it romantic without being gushy. You want to let her know that you like her, but you don’t want her to think that you’re creepy and have been obsessing over her for months. Give it to her in person, or slip it in her locker. As a last resort, ask her over IM or text. Neither option is really ideal, but sometimes life throws you a curveball. Try asking her point blank if she has a prom date. If she doesn’t, go in and ask her. Beware, however: your chances of success over IM or text are a lot lower than asking in person or even a letter.

Brush your teeth every morning, before school, but especially before you ask her out. You want fresh breath when you talk to her. Shower if you’re dirty. If you have rowing or soccer practice before school, for goodness sake, don’t skip out on the morning shower. Cleanliness is next to godliness, remember? Don’t lay it on thick with the cologne. Contrary to popular belief, spraying yourself with massive amounts of cologne is not a winning proposition in her eyes. One spray at most, or better yet — let your natural cleanliness shine. Dress to impress. You don’t have to wear a suit and tie when you ask her, but you do want to put your best foot forward. Look really nice without looking like you walked straight out of the ’50s.

Put the situation in terms of risk and reward. You want low risk and high reward, and that’s exactly what you’re getting. (You should be a betting man. ) The risk is that she’ll say “no. " You’ll be embarrassed for an hour, and then you’ll move on. The reward is that she’ll say “yes,” and you don’t need to read on to go down the list of why that’s good!

Be inventive. Especially for girls who you’re closer to, or perhaps expect you to ask them, try: Lighting up candles on her driveway that spell “Prom?” Be there when she steps outside. Write “Prom” on a piece of paper, laminate it, and then break it up into a puzzle. (Alternately, you can buy pre-broken puzzle pieces to write on. ) Give it to her to assemble. Make your own soda label asking her out to prom. Then tape the label onto a bottle of soda and give it to her. Be direct. These are more emotionally-driven ways to ask a girl out to prom. They’re the oldest trick in the book, and that’s because they work really well: “I know we’re just friends right now, but there isn’t anyone else that I’d rather take to prom. Will you go with me?” “I’ve been meaning to ask you this for a while now, but I get so tied up around pretty girls. Will you go to prom with me?” “I’ve been waiting for this day for a while now. And unless I just go out and say it, I’ll probably not say it directly enough: will you go to prom with me?”

Try to put a smile on your face, look her in the eyes, and say something like: “That’s totally fine, I understand. I hope we can still stay friends. " You never know what plain old decency could get you.