Don’t forget to pop a breath mint or apply some lip balm! When you feel and look your best, you’ll boost your confidence going into the make out session.
Resist the urge to cut the lights completely. You might think that total darkness will ease your nerves and hide any slip-ups. For a first-timer, though, it’ll actually make things a lot more difficult—you can’t see where you’re going, and you’ll want to be able to gauge your partner’s reaction. Save the full darkness for later sessions when you know each other better. If you’re alone in a bedroom or a basement, you can dim the lights a bit without being too obvious about it. Set the mood, if you like. If you know that someone you like will be coming over solo later and that there’s a good chance you’ll be making out later, then you can make sure your room is neat and tidy, that there’s no chance a parent, sibling, or roommate will interrupt, and that everything smells nice.
Find excuses to get close. Putting your body as near as possible to the other person’s is a pretty strong hint. Sit close if you’re on a couch or in a car, or hold hands and stand with your body completely against theirs. Make it extra obvious by staring deep into their eyes. Reveal slightly more skin. If you’re wearing a cardigan or jacket, take it off casually. You could also undo the top button of your shirt, roll up your sleeves, or pull up your hair, so that your neck and chest are more exposed. Get handsy. Before you start kissing, make your intentions clear by using your hands to start closer contact. [4] X Expert Source Imad JbaraDating Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019. Hold hands, offer a shoulder or foot rub, play with the other person’s hair, or lightly trace your fingers over their face or throat.
If you aren’t sure whether or not your partner wants to kiss you, just ask. Say something like, “Can I kiss you right now?” If your partner is feeling nervous, asking for permission might just put them more at ease.
Even though you’re planning to make out soon, stick to just using your lips for now. Going in with your tongue too quickly can be a little jarring, and it’s better to start out with light pecks than it is to jump in too early. Take a deep breath, smile a little, and slowly lean in toward your partner. You don’t have to get it right the first time and remember: they may be just as nervous as you are!
If your partner closes their mouth suddenly or pulls away, they may not want to make out right now, which is fine. You can simply hold hands or cuddle instead, and save making out for another day.
Pressure: Alternate between soft, gentle kisses and harder, more insistent ones. Speed: Slow kisses are a good start to making out, and they’re nice for taking a subtle breather in the middle. To convey more passion, though, you can speed up to quicker and deeper lip work. Tongue: Try French kissing, or gently touching your partner’s tongue with your tongue, to heighten the intensity. More than anything else, keep your tongue in motion—don’t let it just sit in your partner’s mouth. Make small darting movements, or sweep it around your partner’s tongue in smooth, circular motions.
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Hold onto their head, and slowly and lightly move your hands to the back of their head. Rub your hands through their hair and down their shirt, or pull yourself closer to them letting their hands wrap around your back a little more to make it steamy and sexy. Wrap your arms firmly but gently around them and rub up and down their back. Cup their face between your hands, gently sweeping your thumbs over their cheekbones.
If a nibble sounds like too much for your first make out session, save it for when you and your partner are more comfortable with each other.
If this is your partner’s first time making out too, they’ll probably appreciate a quick check-in.
Pull away and smile, run your fingers through the other person’s hair, and keep your hands on the person’s body. You can even take a break by whispering something sexy in your partner’s ear. The feel of your hot breath on their ear will turn up the heat for sure.
“I love it when you ___” “You’re so good at this. ” “I love making out with you. ” “You’re such a good kisser. ” If your partner isn’t good at kissing, be patient. Continue to use the techniques that you’ve learned and give your partner time to follow your lead.
Let your partner know you had a good time. Say what you feel, and don’t worry about sounding too elegant or aloof. End with one more kiss. Make this one quick, light, and gentle, especially if your making out was heavy and intense toward the end. Leave your partner wanting more. Tell them that you can’t wait to hang out again and make it clear that you mean you can’t wait to make out again too. The second time will always be even better than the first.
